Your Bills Are Paid Go Live Your Life

When I opened TikTok first thing in the morning, a video stopped me.

This guy was talking about how people start shaming others for going out, for what they wear, for what they buy… once they hit a certain age. Then he said something so simple but so real:

Who cares?

Your bills are paid.

You have a job, a home, a car.

Go do what you want. Life is already stressful enough why wouldn’t you enjoy what it has to offer?

That hit me.

I used to think growing up meant becoming quieter.

Now I know it just means becoming more myself.

Because people do judge you as you get older. They expect you to shrink, to quiet down, to become… predictable. But at the same time, a lot of people aren’t even doing the emotional work on themselves. And you can tell. You can always tell the difference between the people who are healing, growing, and learning themselves and the ones who aren’t.

And me? I’m choosing to live.

On March 14, I went into New York City to see Lithe in concert with my forever friend. Before anything, I did my homework I listened to his music, got familiar with his vibe. Because if my friends, my family, or even my future man loves something… I’m going to meet them there. If they like it, I love it too.

Before heading to her apartment in Brooklyn, I stopped at TacoBee’s Mexican Grill to grab us food. I got a steak burrito and chicken birria tacos because priorities. Then it was just me, a bag full of food, and the city around me.

When I got there, we split everything, started chatting, laughing, and getting ready for the night. And let me just say the food? So good.

We got dressed with music playing in the background, putting together outfits inspired by Lithe’s album Euphoria greens and blacks, matching the energy.

The venue was Elsewhere in Brooklyn intimate, packed, and alive. Disco balls hung from the ceiling, lights flashing everywhere blue, red, strobes, smoke it felt like stepping into a whole different world. My forever friend knew every word. She was dancing, singing, living in it. And me? Right there with her.

After the show, we went out for a bit longer, just soaking in the night. No rush. No pressure. Just living.

The next day, we slowed it down and explored. We went to find the giant chrome evil eye sculpture at Flatiron Plaza by Charlotte Colbert. It was 10 feet tall, reflecting everything around it. Blue and brown eyes, layered behind each other. Honestly? Beautiful. I love art in all forms whether it’s in a museum or just out in the street.

Then we walked into the largest Barnes & Noble I’ve ever seen literal heaven. After that, we grabbed sandwiches (the best ones, obviously), and just enjoyed the day before I headed back home to New Jersey.

Another weekend. Another memory. Probably another page in my junk journal.

And the funny thing is… that TikTok was right.

Go out.

Wear what you want.

Do what makes you happy.

Your bills are paid.

So go enjoy your life.